4 Ways to Spot an Emotionally Unavailable Person

Emotional availability is one of the most important factors people look for when they enter any type of relationship. In a world dominated by technology, intimacy of heart and emotions is something we all look forward to. Physical attraction can only take you so far. Until you have an emotional support to back it up with, no relationship could survive the onslaught of time.

A healthy relationship requires equal participation by both partners, and in every department. A truly loving relationship will fulfill all the emotional needs for both. However, it’s a difficult balance to achieve. There could be several reasons for it; one of which is emotional unavailability.

It’s a piercing trait which isn’t hard to miss after the initial phase. It’s easy enough to spot it and feel it, but how much long can you accept it it’s up to you to decide.

As mentioned before, any relationship in order to survive needs the participation of both the partners. An emotionally unavailable person would never provide that, leaving the entire onus on their partners.

Here are the four signs to look out for to spot an emotionally unavailable partner:

1. Never considering your feelings

To consider someone’s feelings, one needs to empathize with them. This shouldn’t be difficult to do in a relationship. Love leads to a deep bond which also contains sympathy.

However, if you feel that your partner doesn’t have any regards for your feelings it may be because they don’t allow themselves to do that. For a healthy relationship, both partners need to consider each other’s feelings and respect them. Kind of obvious thing, but so many of us are too blind to see it…

2. Never try to get to know you better

To know someone you need to talk to understand them truly. Any relationship will find its core pillar in the interest each partner shows towards the other. Knowing the likes, dislikes, hopes and fears, and everything a person loves, helps to understand them better, a crucial step to love someone.

If your partner isn’t making the effort to know you better, it shows that they don’t wish to know you. Emotional connection requires an understanding based on the knowledge about each other. If it is not there, the relationship is going nowhere.

3. You can never get them to open up

Nowadays, it is extremely easy to mask our true feelings, or lack of it, behind our phone screens. An emotionally unavailable person could easily pretend to be someone else using modern technology effectively. Sounds familiar, right?

One way to truly understand a person’s mental space is to talk to them face-to-face. Look out for whether they are equally willing to open themselves up for a hearty chat, as they are over texting, and whether they maintain eye contact or seem genuinely interested in your talks.

4. They create deliberate distance

A person in love with you will use every means possible to lessen the distances between the both of you. But an emotionally unavailable person would do quite the opposite. They would increase the distances to keep themselves away from any responsibility or confrontation. Every relationship faces bumps on the road, but it’s up to the partners to overcome them. If one of the two is unwilling to put in that effort, the relationship won’t survive for long.

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