8 Uncomfortable Signs You Belong to the Clan of Extroverted Introverts

According to Psychology Today, “Introverts are drained by social encounters and energized by solitary, often creative pursuits, whereas socializing for extroverts is the whole reason for being.”

They belong to the either side of the spectrum and are black and white. The confusion arises when you have to define the grey area, i.e. people who cannot demarcate their personality; they are the ‘extroverted introverts.’

Imagine a person who finds solace in solitude, reading a book or drinking coffee wrapped in a warm fuzzy blanket but also loves to party and socialize. Sounds like you? Then you belong to the clan of ‘extroverted introverts’! They have the best of both the worlds and can do each with gusto, finding energy in seclusion and socializing.

Sometimes they recharge themselves by being alone, and sometimes by being among friends.

To help you better understand the extroverted introverts, and find out if you are one of them, keep on reading!

1. They love hanging out with people but they don’t always feel like talking

This is a tad bit confusing but what is life without conflict! Introverts are eloquent in silence and extroverts love to be surrounded by people, so you’ll find the synthesis of both in extroverted introverts. They believe words take too much effort but at the same time they enjoy the company.

2. They prefer one on one hangouts instead of with a whole group

If you are friends with an extroverted introvert, then you will notice that they love deep and meaningful conversations but not in groups. They will treasure you and always listen to you. Too many empty voices blabbering is not their cup of tea.

Related article: 19 Signs You’re Introverted, Not Shy

3. Not the best at responding to text messages

Is your phone always on silent? Extroverted introverts do not respond to texts usually because they prefer one on one and face to face conversations. Yes, they are very old school and would love to share everything with you but only when they feel like it. They are incredibly moody. Most conversations they have are inside their head and if they respond to you, you are very special. Do not feel bad if they do not respond because it is nothing personal.

4. Just because they prefer to be alone, doesn’t mean they don’t get lonely

You can find them sitting in a corner of a cafe with their book, completely at ease or staring out of the window waiting for someone to join them. They are truly an enigma. It’s simply not easy for them.

5. Even if it’s hard to leave the house, they still have a great time

Being friends with an extroverted introvert takes immense patience. You have to drag them out of the house but once you do, they will enjoy it and have a great time! You will have to coax them, but they are fun people to be with and would party all night in the right company.

6. They are the patient listeners and talk when it is needed

You will not find them screaming their lungs out to prove their point; instead, they will patiently hear what everyone has to say and only talk when it is needed. They are empaths and want people to be comfortable. If they see someone is irked by their silence, they will initiate a conversation.

7. They have their own world in their head

They have an eye for detail and analyze every given situation. Even if they are constantly thinking about something or the other, you wouldn’t understand as they know how to behave in groups.

8. People mistake their friendliness for flirting 

They are really good at making people feel special by giving them complete attention, and many people confuse this  for flirting. When in group, they are extremely friendly and because of their conflicting nature, it is misinterpreted as flirting. Hold onto them, as they are very loyal and interesting people.