Rejection is grouse; it’s even more than grouse. It’s something that brings under-eye bags. At least it feels like it, right?

Going through the brain mechanism  of rejection, we feel like our soul gets inward and we feel smaller. Let’s not evade the truth; it’s just the way it is. But what can we change something during that time? Can we learn something and drag out experience, or should we just go with it and pray it doesn’t happen again?

Rejection is a lesson. If you already forgot the quote it says that “rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.” We must go over thousands of them! The more we learn from one rejection the best it will be for our future. I’ve detached 4 significant things to learn when handling rejection and I’m pleased to share them with you.

1. Improvement

Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star in 1919 because, his editor said, he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”

After a performance at Nashville’s Grand Ole Opry, Elvis Presley was told by the concert hall manager that he was better off returning to Memphis and driving trucks (his former career).

Steve Jobs was fired from his own company.

He didn’t speak until he was four and didn’t read until he was seven. He was subsequently expelled from school and was not admitted to the Zurich Polytechnic School (Albert Einstein)

This list can go for ages! These legends survived all the steps of rejection and all the under-eye bags. They did feel small, but look at their life achievements. After being rejected, they improved and took a giant leap of self-confidence and self-determination. They chose to procreate their own image. All of their lives were astonishing because of that rejection.

2. Perfection

You know what’s perfect? It’s doing something that you are best at. Life is tricky and evil. Without being rejected you won’t find what’s good for you, never, ever.

One colossal mistake I’ve grasped is that people think they have one direction in life.

Let’s take salesman as an example. To become salesman, one has to clean toilets, work as a security in a bank, work in McDonald’s, ride a bike and bring the mail, connect with wrong people, and THEN that person will realize that selling any kind of thing is right for him (this was just a guess, not an authentic way of becoming a salesman). The process of discovering a person’s talent is doing the wrong things, until that person finds out what he’s formed to do and reach the perfection of it.

A perfect salesman is capable of selling stinky pile of s*it to people, and make the customers believe its brownish fluid gold.

To attain that level of self-confidence and self-energy, the salesman must be rejected and have failed to sell that stinky pile a thousand times, right until the first sale! When he makes the first sale, he will see that people react on some sale tricks, a smile from time to time, and a feeling that even the salesman believes that pile is brownish fluid gold. Rejection always leads to perfection.

3. Compassion

Do you know that your boss knows exactly how you feel when he rejected the project you were creating for 2 straight weeks? He survived through thousands of failed projects, but he will reject it because he thinks that’s the best for the firm, and that project will be a failure, a big one.

Let’s say the boss did accept your poor project and he spend 30 thousand dollars on a crummy project. He wouldn’t be a successful boss, and you wouldn’t work in a successful firm.

When we experience rejection we also become rude and cruel (at least for the eyes of the society)

The conclusion is that compassion is built through failure and rejection, and the level of good parenting and good leadership rises by the exact rejections. When your kid gets rejected over the first love letter in school, and when the whole firm awaits on your response, you will know exactly how to handle both, even though these were far too distanced examples.

Face rejection, build compassion, and be rude and cruel for your dream because out there you will face lot of pessimists that will try to ruin it.

4. Confidence

Rejection is fear, because the exact “no” we experience, was the biggest fear while we tried to make it “yes”. Do I make sense? Let me exaggerate.

Confidence means believing in you, while what others think, doesn’t matter to you AT ALL. While we face rejection we kick and beat the ego, the exact thing that gives you the fear of rejection. Until that ego is literally dead, we would have to face rejection and send those under-eyed bags to beat the crap out of the ego.

Rejection is natural, we are not going to make sense and be careful enough to please everyone (our boss, our wannabe-girlfriend/boyfriend, our colleagues, our parents). Not Fearing What Might Come Up after you do your thing, means having the biggest, monstrous, gigantic self-confidence. To reach that, my beloved readers, we would have to beat the crap out of the ego and make him surrender, while the white flag he is going to wave, will be the “yes” after that salesman I recently mentioned, sell the first pile of s*it to his first customer, coming up from his our powerful self-confident body language and verbal skills.

This will help you overcome all the rejections in the world; in fact, it will make you want to be rejected!

If something doesn’t make sense, I would be glad to answer the questions in the comments section.

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