Life should be lived with rules. Not the rules of the government, not the rules by the people around you, but by the rules that you direct. Simply stated, To Live By Your Own Code.
It’s been said that if we do something every day and if we focus our mindset on it for 21 day, we will make that thing a habit. So starting from now, if you choose to change something in your life, you only need 21 day to do that. You can never change a bad habit, but you can surely replace it.
1. Make peace with your past so it won’t disturb your present
It’s not strange that every second quote we run into is about “forgetting your past.” In one of my previous writings I mentioned that From 60.000 Thoughts a Day, 95% Are From The Previous Day. By a simple mathematics, we only live 5% of the time in the present, which is ridiculously unpleasant. It’s not just an easy description or guide of how to live in the present, but we need to force our conscious to be here all the time. Starting from now, in the next 21 days, you should make your present rule your thoughts.
One simple exercise I’ve found in one book is about observing things most of the time. After doing that exercise every day, I’ve noticed that we don’t grasp the real beauties of the world. We overthink, we make worst case scenarios, but we never truly see. This exercise will help you be in the present time, surely more than 5% of the time!
2. What other people think of you is none of your business
We live in a judgmental society, we can’t deny that. Everyone around you is going to have opinions about you, good or bad.
Stating the point that everybody is different, we should accept the fact that we cannot fulfill everybody’s needs. It’s important to be your true self around everybody, instead of adjusting to the environment. A little change in the behavior around different type of people is okay, but never change yourself just to be accepted. You are not meant to fit in everywhere. That’s what makes us all special.
Let people thing what the hell they want. You have a goal here, different from everybody else. Pursue that goal until you make it. What Tony or Stephen thinks of you is none of your business.
3. Time heals almost everything. Give it time
One perception of how athletes become legends is that they Push The Tempo In Harsh Times. They know that pain is temporary. During trainings they may throw up, or end up pale as a white wall, but when the contest is coming, or the big game, they are ready to feel the glorious moment of winning the contest.
What people know, that are stated as more than average, is that character is built under pressure, just like diamonds. To be the best, we have to win every battle between the person we are now, and the person we want to become. It’s also a good reminder that you need 21 days to Shift Your Mindset and direct it to fulfill your goals.
4. No one is in charge of your happiness. Except you
We have the moments of momentum happiness for no reason. But to be in a state of happiness, where we don’t need to wait for the no-reason-moment. We need to strive for something, a vision.
People without finding what they are meant to do, will never find happiness, and they will always depend on those happy moments for no reason.
The journey alone, to find what’s our vision and endeavor in that direction, is the only way to find the state of happiness. These Quick Ways To Happiness may help you.
5. Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about
What I just explained in #2, goes same for us. We are unique and special, but we often repeal that because we choose to compare us with someone richer, someone with better car, or someone with better look. Uniqueness doesn’t work that way.
Being unique is being one and only. What’s more important than your state of happiness and serenity? It’s not how others look, nor how others spend their money.
Way too often, people without vision and goal, bore themselves with other people’s lives. I highly recommend you do not be one of them. We have enough talkers. We need more doers.
6. Stop thinking too much. It’s alright not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it
Thinking is not that good when it’s not directed. What’s more important is observing. As I mentioned in #1, observe things more, don’t think.
We know that overthinking creates problems that weren’t even there on the first place. To solve a problem we need action and small amount of thinking because every problem cannot solve itself. If you can solve it, do it. If not, don’t bother your brain with it. There is nothing you can do about it.
7. Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world
One average 4 years old kid, smiles for about 300 times a day. How much do you think an average grown up man smiles in one day? 15 times …
As we grow older our sense of humor and smiles fade. Some people still have it and value it, but most people cheer the frowns rather than the smiles. Both are addictive, cheers and frowns, but it’s not good for us when we cheer the frowns.
Smile more. One study says that if we want to have positive day we should think positive the last and the first 10 minutes of our day. Don’t watch the news when you go to bed, don’t read sad stories and don’t overthink before bed. Just relax and try to avoid every bad scenario. Wake up, look yourself in the mirror and smile, even if you want to break the mirror. The forced smile gives false chemistry to your brain and scams him that you are happy. It automatically sends good vibrations to your body. In the next 21 days try to make this as a habit.
The 7 cardinal rules will help you be more unique person than you ever were. Ask Yourselves The Most Frightening Life Questions and follow the rules.