Life is an art. It can be crafted good or bad because it doesn’t necessarily mean that art can always be acceptable just by doing it.
Dalai Lamas are the head monks of the Gelug School, the newest of the schools of Tibetan Buddhism. Dalai Lama the 14th won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1989, and is also well known for his lifelong advocacy for Tibetans inside and outside Tibet.
Dalai Lama quoted and gave inspirational instructions for life in 19 parts. All the parts will direct our life in an art that will end up as acceptable.
1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk
At first, we may think that Dalai Lama is all about calmness and spirituality, but he is pretty much aware that every great achievement involves great risk.
If we want to make change that matters in this world, we have to be aware of the risks from that ‘stunt’ and keep proceeding while we nurture our spirit with daily motivation and doses of calmness (yoga, meditation, work out).
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson
The thing we take out of defeat is the lesson. If we lose the lesson, defeat will always make us failures.
3. Follow Three R’s:
-Respect for self.
-Respect for others.
-Responsibility for all of your actions.
If we follow these, we are more than half way on the right path. The other half is in the other 18 instructions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck
He describes that everything will lead us on the exact righteous spot if we keep proceeding with the instructions. Some things cannot be always grasped and get, but that’s the beauty of the struggle in harsh times.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly
Every person, even among the greatest knows that the rules are made for finding gaps. If we keep track on things to avoid breaking a rule, we will never achieve greatness, because the rules alone are made so that we cannot do more than ordinary.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship
Friendship is getting along with a person that has traits which suit your personality. That person cannot always agree with our actions.
If you think about it, sometimes we cannot even agree with our own thoughts and actions. We can’t expect to get along all the time with our closed ones.
7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it
Mistakes are crucial parts of life. Rejection and mistakes help failure.
We can pull a lesson out of a mistake, like we can from failure. But if we let that mistake run in background, it will end up accumulating more problems. The best way to correct our mistakes is now. It’s not always easy, but it’s always the right thing.
8. Spend some time alone every day
I personally know people, and some of them are my close friends, that cannot get along with themselves. They can’t stand being alone.
By being alone we have time to “deal with our skeletons” which means that every day we need some time alone to thing about US. It’s crucial part for our soul to have a chit-chat with ourselves every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values
Change and values are closely related. We can change ourselves but it’s important that we keep our values with us. You can be a good and poor person and that doesn’t mean that you should be evil when you get rich.
You can be good and rich. We shouldn’t let change take our values.
10. Remember that in silence is sometimes the best answer
We all work on energy. By this fact alone, we shouldn’t always speak our answers. Sometimes the energy is enough to answer particular questions.
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time
Our life separates in two parts: actions and memories. If our memories are always cheering us up, we know that life was good.
We should strive for that kind of memories, but don’t live your life so you can get old and live on memories. It’s never too late to make another ones.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life
The best quote that describes this is:
“Happiness is kitchen full of family.”
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation
We often let our emotions run and we come up with things to insult our loved ones. From now on, when you have disagreements, especially with people that matter, deal with current situation.
Don’t try to win the fight with throwing grudges from the past, but try to solve it.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality
Sharing the things we know will always leave trait in people. That’s the only way to live forever.
15. Be gentle with the earth
The earth is the only place for us to live on. Maybe this will change in the future, but that’s only because we destroy. We test weapons, we bring fire, we extinct animals, we make global warming.
Nature and animals have it all balanced and people are the only ones that prevent that balance from sustaining.
16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before
Discovering new things includes meeting new cultures and seeing parts of the world. We can enrich ourselves with excessive knowledge by traveling the world.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
Love is magical. When we are deeply in love we have the need to be together, an urge, a must.
Don’t fall too deep in the state because loving more than you need will bring you jealousy and obsessiveness, ending up as breakup.
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal not to people or things” – Albert Einstein
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it
The only way to be successful is to give in order to get. If nothing else, we invest our time to get a thing and time is not renewable.
Surround yourself with your vision and be ready to give your time and thoughts in order to earn it.
19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon
Reckless abandonment is to have no boundaries, no rules, to explore the whole, to find perfection by allowing everything in to be explored so to speak. Try anything, whatever works. Some may not like sugar in their coffee.
It’s great comparison that we shouldn’t overthink when we are discussing about love. We just need the emotions to run our thoughts and be aware of the actions.