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20 Scientifically Proven Ways To Dominate People Without Saying a Word

As genuinely interested in psychology of people and I would like to share the knowledge of influencing people without saying a word. And yes, that’s more than possible!

As science grows every day to inspect people, there are default things our body does in different situations that “betray us” when we want to play it cool.

In case to grant knowledge of the following scientifically proven ways to dominate people, we have to practice the “shortcuts” below.

1 - dilated pupils

1. “If you want to know if someone is interested, watch their pupils. The pupils are one part of our eye body language we have practically no control over. Eckhard Hess found that the pupil dilates when we are interested in the person we’re talking to, or at least interested in what they’re talking about.”

2 - Crossed feet

2. “If a person is interested in you, look at their feet. Most people know to keep their facial expressions in check, but they don’t pay attention to what their feet are doing. So if somebody’s feet are pointed directly towards you, this is a sign of genuine interest; Pointing at the door not so much.”

3 - Blue and Red

3. “Blue means trust. Red means jumped. Blue makes you seem trustworthy, conservative, secure, and clean, while red, on the other hand, gives off power, energy, danger, and inspires feelings of passion and love. The choice is yours.”

4- Shifting Gaze

4. “Want to know about somebody’s political views? Shift your gaze. Glance away, as you’re talking to someone. If a person follows your eyes when you look away, that means they are likely liberal. Conservatives will be much less likely to shift their gaze.”

5 - Tips for Servers

5. “Servers who touch their customers get better tips. Studies show that female servers receive higher tips when they touch customers lightly on the shoulder, hand, or arm. GET IT TOUCH SERVERS.”

6 - Tilt Head back

6. “Tilt your head back to take charge. Studies show that the more you bow your head, the more submissive you seem, while the more you tilt your head back, the more dominant you appear.”

7 - Time

7. “Your watch tells if people are lying (well, not literally). According to a new study, people who are tired are more likely to lie, cheat, and act unethically. The conclusion says that morning people are more likely to lie at night, and night owls are more likely to lie in the morning.” – Brian Gunia, an assistant professor at Johns Hopkins University’s Carey Business School

8 - Spread out

8. “You want to be a “big shot”? S P R E A D O U T. Powerful people take up lots of space. They splay their arms and legs, make broad gestures, and generally fill a room. In fact, tall people are statistically more likely to rise higher on their professions than shorter people.” – Vanessa Van Edwards, author and behavioral investigator, Science of People

9 - Let them speak first

9. “Want to fell trusted? Let them speak first. You can do this by asking question. Yielding the floor makes the other persons feel warmth toward you, and as though they’re being heard and understood.” – wired interview with social psychologist Amy Cuddy

10 - Lavender and Pumkin Pie

10. “GIRLS, open your eyes here. The smell of lavender and pumpkin pie turns men on. A study by the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation found that the scent of lavender and pumpkin pie caused 40% increase in penile blood flow, in male volunteers. Second on the list were donut and black licorice with 31.5%”

11 - Head Nod

11. “Want somebody to agree with you? Nod your head. Nods are contagious, and spread good feelings. If you nod your head as you ask your “yes” question, or as you listen to responses, others will begin to nod along and start to feel positive about what you’re chatting.”

12 - Mirroring

12. “Mirroring means instant affinity! If you want to make a connection with someone, try mirroring their expressions and gestures. Doing so will make the other person feel understood and accepted. If you see others unconsciously imitating your body language, you can be fairly sure that they like or agree with you.” – Carol Kinsey Goman, PhD

13 - Tattoos

13. “Want to look sexually experienced, get a tattoo. A study in the Journal of Individual Differences found that people with tattoos are viewed as more thrill and adventure-seeking, less inhibited, and more likely to have a high number of previous sexual partners than their ink-free counterparts.”

14 - Eye contact

14. “If you want someone to fall in love with you, gaze into their eyes. A study conducted in 1989 determined simple eye contact could make a person fall in love with you (Kellerman, Lewis, and Laird). In this study, two sexually compatible strangers were asked to gaze into each other’s eyes for two minutes. In some cases, the participants reported passionate feelings for one another.”

15 - Playing with hair

15. “Playing with hair? You are receptive.” If you are out with a person and they’re twirling their hair or playing with their jewelry, it doesn’t mean they’re distracted. It’s a sign of romantic interest.” – Jeremy Nicholson, M.S.W., PhD

female face with wrinkles on her forehead

16. “You can tell how open or closed a person is by their forehead. Look at person’s forehead. The more wrinkles they have, and the deeper they are, the more open that person is likely to be. That’s because a characteristic gesture of an open person is to raise their eyebrows, wrinkling the forehead.”

17 - act like winning

17. “When you’re losing a game, act like you’re winning. There is body language associated with people losing that most people can detect intuitively. In sports, this can cause a downward spiral for athletes on the losing side. Want to turn the game around? Square your shoulders, puff your chest, and walk like a winner.” – Phillip Furley and Geoffrey Schweizer, 2014

18 - Date distracted

18. “Is your date distracted? He or she might be rich! Studies have shown that people with a high socio-economic status are less engaged when it comes to conversation – they fidget and doodle, rather than playing close attention to others.”

19 - Move forward

19. “You can dominate the conversation by moving forward. You can take the lead in a conversation by leaning slightly forward when you want the other person to stop talking. Or use a hand gesture to take the ‘public space’ between you – the gestural equivalent of standing up in a classroom to lead the group.

20 - Finger length

20. “Finger length is linked to hormone levels. If a man’s ring finger and index finger are the same length, he might be gay. If a woman’s ring finger is noticeably longer than her pointer, then she might be gay.”

7 Comments

7 Comments

  1. Camila Mejia

    February 24, 2015 at 2:46 AM

  2. Zaby @ Zaby's Perspective

    February 24, 2015 at 10:14 AM

    does this stuff really work?

    • Nikola Gjakovski

      February 24, 2015 at 10:58 AM

      Yes Zaby. All scientifically proven. Take a closer look at your chit chat buddy next time you will notice few of these.

  3. Neal Kind

    February 24, 2015 at 1:39 PM

    Interesting tips 🙂
    I’m adopting that nodding thing from now on..:P

    • Nikola Gjakovski

      March 2, 2015 at 9:43 PM

      Thank you Neal! You’ll surely improve in dominance with your mates 😉

  4. Helen Monger

    February 25, 2015 at 9:19 AM

    Great post. Interesting stuff 🙂

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