Most of us have already been through this. It is true if one refers to this world as one where swipes or likes determine everything. And yes, the same holds true when it comes to finding love. There are numerous dating apps out there, but for most, they’re just a place for quick hookups.
Of course, finding love could feel hopeless. And when you do get a taste of love, you try and do whatever you can to keep holding on to it with a sense of desperation.
While you’ll need to make some compromises and sacrifices for a healthy and loving relationship, there are some things that you should never have to give up for love. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or how good the other person looks.
If loving someone costs you to lose parts of yourself then you’re better off being true to yourself instead of giving up things, in the long run.
1. Your ambition
Women are told from an early age that ambition scares men way. Apparently, you are supposed to support a man’s ambition instead of trying to express your own.
Do you know what I say to such thinking? Good riddance! You have every right to be ambitious. And if you happen to fall for a man who thinks that an ambitious woman is unattractive, that man isn’t worth your time.
Also, don’t waste your energy thinking that you’ll be able to educate him. It’s not your job to educate men who think that women aren’t supposed to achieve their dreams.
2. Your standards
Never compromise your integrity for someone. Of course, you aren’t going to find your knight in shining armor, but it is still possible to keep high and realistic standards. Just make sure you don’t change your standards to accommodate any man you happen to meet.
If your standard includes being treated with respect then don’t throw that out of the window as soon as you meet mister tall, dark, and handsome. Lowering your standards to the point where you aren’t treated with respect isn’t going to open any doors to romance.
3. Your hobbies
Don’t close yourself off to exciting new things once you’re in a relationship. In a similar manner, don’t let go of the things you enjoy just to be with someone.
If your man isn’t into you writing books, or singing songs, etc. then why are you willing to let go of a piece of yourself to be with him? Try and do new things together. If that doesn’t work out and you feel your hobbies are being forced out of your life, you are better off without such a problematic person in your life.
4. Your sense of humor
Men can be insecure creatures. They can feel insecure about a woman’s ambition, their confidence, and even their humor.
Don’t tone yourself down just to please an insecure man because that’s something that will never stop. One day he’s insecure about humor, the next he might be insecure about the way you talk to him. Keep being yourself and show such men the door.
5. Your friends
“Sisters before misters!” Never let go of your close friendships for the sake of your relationship. If your man feels insecure about you being close to a male friend, that’s a red flag right there. Also, if they stop you from spending time with your girlfriends, you need to put your foot down.
Of course, your significant other will want to spend more time with you. But if that means being ‘ordered’ to not hang out with your friends, you’ll need to decide if such a relationship is even worth it.
6. Your taste
Similar to hobbies, don’t let go of your taste in food to please a man you’re in a relationship with. Your love for Chinese takeaway or exotic salads helps make you who you are. Don’t lock away a part of yourself to make someone else feel pleased.
7. Your time
Giving time to your loved one is important, but that doesn’t mean it has to keep you away from the rest of the things you want to do. You’re supposed to be in a healthy relationship, not the victim of someone who’s borderline obsessive.
You have the right to live your own life while being in a relationship too. You should be the judge of how much time you’re supposed to give your job, your friends, and your man.
8. Your privacy
You might be tempted to share all your passwords once you’re in a relationship. As a human being, you have the right to privacy. So, if your man is always trying to sneak into your phone or laptop, you need to deal with the problem.
And don’t fall for the whole “if you love me, you’d tell me your password,” emotional blackmail tactic. If your man doesn’t respect your privacy, you can’t be in a long lasting relationship with him.
9. Your opinions
Don’t be a “yes, sir,” kind of woman as soon as you enter a relationship. You should be allowed to voice your opinions in a relationship.
Being in love is a two-way street. Your man should love you for who you are and what you think rather than wanting you to keep quiet and do what he tells you to do. You should be striving for a healthy relationship, not a dictatorship.
So, the next time you enter a relationship or if you’re already in one, make sure that these were the 9 things you should never have to give up for love.