To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness; it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. Empaths are highly sensitive people who can feel what others feel and try to heal their wounds. They have immense depth, wisdom and compassion, making the world a brighter place.
Sometimes, an empath is taken advantage of by narcissists who require constant validation. According to psychologist Stephen Johnson, a narcissist is someone who has “buried his true self-expression in response to early injuries and replaced it with a highly developed, compensatory false self” and possesses a sense of entitlement. Being with them will drain the empath, but they will try to nurture the relationship in the face of adversity.
Pay close attention to these signs that you might be in a toxic relationship!
1. Narcissists seek out empaths
Empaths are highly sensitive people and are easy targets for narcissists. They are vulnerable and are almost always emotionally manipulated by a narcissist. Narcissists know that the empath will tolerate their tantrums.
2. The empath gives more importance to the narcissist’s feelings than their own
Empaths always try to reach out and satisfy other peoples needs first. They will give the narcissist’s feelings importance and have theirs be neglected. They would do anything to make the narcissist happy, which naturally feeds both their egos.
3. The narcissist will take advantage of the empath’s kindness
The narcissist will take advantage of the empath to feel important. Empaths will feed their “insatiable appetite” for admiration. Kindness is a virtue of the empath but is taken as a weakness.
4. The narcissist will always manipulate the empath
Narcissists are very vocal about what they want. They are charmers and will use that to gain control of the relationship. They will use gaslighting, a tactic in which a person in order to gain power, makes a victim (mostly an empath) question their reality. It is easy to manipulate an empath because they are unaware and feel that they deserve being treated that way.
5. The empath enjoys giving praise to the narcissist
While the narcissist is guilty of manipulating the empathetic person, the empath is guilty of using the narcissist for their own satisfaction. Empaths are great at making others feel good and love doing that. They feel content about themselves because their natural desire to feel needed is satisfied.
6. The empath feels that the narcissist is unique and badly treated
Narcissists love to play the victim. They are too full of themselves to identify their mistakes and blame others for their misery. It is always the situation and not their own flaw. The empaths believe easily and think that they are “misunderstood”. The narcissist will drive home the belief that they are unique and the empath will treat them that way.
7. The empath will be neglected by the narcissist
Narcissists are oblivious about what other people feel or think. They are emotionally unavailable and will put their needs before yours every time. They will never realize your worth and will neglect you. The worst thing however is, you will get used to it but don’t let anyone walk all over you in the name of love.
8. The narcissist is an expert in playing mind games
Another aspect of gaslighting is tricking the empath into believing that they are making things up by claiming that they never said certain things or that an event that took place was in their imagination and not in reality. They will put you into such situations for their own benefit.
9. The narcissist will make an empath feel inferior
An empath will always be treated as an inferior by the narcissist. The empath will hope that this vicious nature will change, but the sad truth is, it won’t. They will dominate the empath and get away until the empath decides to take a stand.
10. Empaths who are a victim of abuse should seek help
Nothing good can come out of such toxicity. It is recommended that an empath who is in a relationship with a narcissist should seek help from an experienced mental health professional. Constant strain will ultimately cause a complete breakdown, so if you feel as if you need help, it is okay and recommended to ask and get help.