“Some people don’t understand the promises they’re making when they make them,” I said. “Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That’s what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.” John Green,
Being faithful is not an easy task. If you somehow think that being faithful just implies sharing your bed with only one person, you cannot be anymore wrong.
There are a lot other things that constitute faithfulness. Not only should you get rid of your Tinder account and other dating apps, you are also supposed to stop flirting if it in any way becomes a bit too intense. You have to make sure that you are in a position where you do not have to think of backup plans and you have to make it clear to girls who are interested in you that you already are committed to someone and you cannot lead them on and enjoy the fact that someone else other than your partner desires you.
Being faithful implies that you keep you relationship status public so that everyone knows that you have someone in your life, that you always wear your wedding ring because you are happy with the person you are with and you would not want to cheat on them.
Honesty is another essential prerequisite of faithfulness. If you cannot disclose all the uncomfortable truths to your partner then there is no point in staying in a relationship at all. You’ll have to tell her if you chance to run into your ex or if some girl asked for your number.
Your partner deserves to know everything about you. And you also have to know what your partner considers as unfaithfulness and never cross that line.
But it does not mean that you cannot have friends of the opposite gender or cannot like someones photo on Facebook or even text someone else. But what you can’t do is text someone and deliberately keep your partner in the dark about it.
You only hide things from your partner when you know that if you tell her about it, she would be hurt. She has every reason to be upset if you are having a sexually charged conversation with another girl or you are treating another woman with the same sense of familiarity as you would treat your partner.
Sometimes, it becomes very difficult to say if a certain action on your part could be regarded as cheating because there is no black and white reality. There are always certain gray areas where things start becoming indistinct and blurry. You should know that if something you do is the reason for your partner’s unhappiness then you better not do it at all.
Thus, being faithful isn’t just not having sex with anyone else, it means that you have pledged your love and devotion to someone and you want to stay true to that person all your life. And you cannot harbor a desire to be with someone else at the same time.