Emotional abuse or psychological abuse is a serious issue. It could damage people for life, especially when it happens in the tender years of budding childhood. Children are more susceptible to emotional abuse than adults. It affect s their personality and growth negatively, and their future relationships with other people.
A study proves that early exposure to relational trauma in childhood can play a relevant role in the development of more severe psychopathic traits.
Thankfully, we have awareness campaigns these days in order to bring this issue in front of people. We cannot treat it lightly because a child is an impressionable being and if s/he goes through traumatic experience then it may cause damage for life.
Here is a list of things which emotionally abused people do as adults:
1. Unexpressed anger
You have been abused to such an extent that you feel that your emotions have no value. You don’t know how to handle intense feelings so you try to shut them up in a deep, dark corner. This suppression is not healthy for you because the buildup will eventually lead to a full-blown outburst that could seriously cause you harm. Try to find healthy ways in which you can express your anger, sadness or passion.
2. Lack of confidence
Those children who have been abused grow up to become diffident people. It doesn’t mean that all people who are diffident have been abused, but those who have been, definitely lack self-confidence. They try to evade all possible conflicts and tense situations.
3. People pleasing tendency
Emotionally abused people are always looking to please others regardless of their own feelings or opinions. They try to avoid making anyone angry or displeased with them. They are constantly living in the fear of their victimizers. This puts them further at risk of being emotionally manipulated by others.
4. A victim of anxiety and depression
This entire trauma can only lead to anxiety and depression. With no proper way to express your feelings and with no courage to fight for yourself, your mind becomes an easy target of depression. This requires serious medical help and you should not ignore it for anything in the world.
5. Being too shy
Since they are not good at communicating their desires to others, people assume that they are overly shy. If proper attention, affection and care are given, emotionally abused people can turn out to be the most charming people you will ever know. Their shyness largely comes from the fact that they do not feel comfortable around people.
6. Self-blaming attitude
People who are emotionally abused will constantly blame themselves for every wrong thing that happens. Even if it is not their fault, they will still feel as if they need to make amends for it. This deep seated fear of being wrong has penetrated into their soul thus every small mistake seems larger than life.
Emotionally abused people cannot detach themselves from the bullying they received at the hands of their victimizers. They will keep on criticizing themselves in the language of their bullies which makes it harder to get out of that trauma. This is an extremely dangerous thing because the presence of the bully is etched in their minds. Even after their victimization has ended, they can keep assume the role of their bully in their head.
8. Constant needs for approval
If a person goes through repeated emotional abuse, s/he requires a constant channel of validation. They need to be reassured more often than other people of their behavior and attitude. Their own validation is not enough because it doesn’t mean as much as other people’s. Nothing they do ever feels enough or right to them.