Some of us have been over achievers and believe that the world will revolve around our wishes because most of the time it has. Even a minor set back can make you feel like you are treading down the path to hell with all glory!
You feel insecure and unable to move toward your dreams because you believe you are lagging behind everyone of your age and that one mistake can ruin everything that you have achieved.
Paralyzed by this fear, you are too critical of yourself and stop functioning. Relax! Do not wallow in self pity and cut yourself some slack.
These are signs that you’re actually doing much better than you think, and you should consider cherishing your life a bit more:
1. You’re unsure about everything
You question everything that you do, from trivial things like “is the cake I baked soft enough?” to “is this presentation elaborate or do I need to polish it?” I tell you what: it is a sure sign of intelligence. Ever noticed how stupid people are so sure of what they are doing? It is because they cannot strive for excellence.
2. You’re not content with something in your life
Some people prefer comfort over anything else. You are different because you cannot just settle for something. Being self-aware is the most crucial step towards the complex process of change. Self discovery is not all bubble baths and roses, it is difficult, it takes courage to redefine your life and deal with the shards.
3. You fell for the wrong person and got your heart broken into a million pieces
We cannot calculate how deeply we fall in love. Yes, sometimes we are blinded by the idea of someone and fail to see the real person… yes, the person may not be the right one and most importantly he may not be ready to give you the love that you deserve. It is okay. Getting your heartbroken is not a crime, but feeling you will never get what you want is surely one. The world is full of possibilities, explore.
4. You’ve lost something important to you and you’re still hurting
“They all want to escape from the pain of being alive. And, most of all, from love. It’s no good to fool yourself about love. You can’t fall into it like a soft job, without dirtying up your hands.” ― John Osborne
You have lost something important, you have been hurt and you are taking time to heal. You know what that means? You CAN feel. Being devoid of emotions is the only real tragedy for humans.
5. You feel lost
All who wander are not lost. You want to look for new avenues instead of going with the crowd. Feeling lost is natural if you know there is much more inside you than what you’re currently offering the world. Others do not have the zeal to want more.
6. Your ego has been really hurt
“A bad day for your ego is a great day for your soul.” – Jillian Michaels.
Well, you will learn more to achieve what you desire.
7. You have one or two friends that feel like your family
You do not need a bunch of people to go partying with, but you need someone who gets you right. If you have that one friend you can call crying at 3 a.m. or rant at 12 p.m., you’re good.
8. You’ve made mistakes
Mistakes show that you have tried, and as clichéd as it sounds, you always learn from them. These lessons will take you forward.
9. Some days you feel miserable
Life is going to get you down, but you will find the strength within you to stand up each time. These scars will make you stronger and the pain you endure will result in an amazing person. Just hang in there.
10. You got rejected or didn’t get something you really wanted
John Green said the bitter truth, “the world is not a wish-granting factory.” but does that mean you quit dreaming? No. you try harder the next time.
11. You didn’t get your perfect ending
May be it is not the end but a new beginning. Life in unpredictable and you just have to go with the flow sometimes. You will get what you want sometime, work hard and be patient.
12. You’re not the same person you were a year ago
Nothing can be worse than stasis, life in all about evolution you see. Change for the better and know that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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